The basic classifiaction of a girl's guy friends can be done on three basic measures
Need Based: How much the girl needs the friendship
Variety Based:How many types of friends a girl could want
Access Based: The amount of access the girl gives to the guy(Not Physically but mentally,On second thoughts maybe physically too.)
Need Based Friends
1.Acquaintances: Satisfies the girls need to have a large friend circle and contact base for future opportunities.
2.Friends : People the girl needs around her to feel important and to get attention
3. Good Friends : The people the girl thinks are worth being around and respects and resiprocates their company
4. Best friends : These are the people the girl wants around her when she is happy or wants to party.
5. Confidant: The guy the girl treats like her personal agony aunt and runs to when ever in a quandry, usually these are the cases where the guy likes a girla nd she doesnt resiprocate his emotions hence he becomes her confidant just so that he can be around her and make a move when an opportune moment arises
6. Boy Friend : The guy who is a complements her the most and give the most amount of attention and gifts. And the guy the girl does not mind being seen with in public.
Variety Based :
Aspirational Friend : The guy the girl aspires to be with , or the guy whose qualities the girl really admires (Mostly physical attributes)
Vocational Friend(The geek): The guy who helps her out with every thing in acadamics and work
Gossip friend: The guy who keeps her up to date with all the gossip in the world to saciate her unending curiocity
Punching Bag : The guy who she loves to insult and throw mud upon and the poor guy has no other option to stick around as he has no other friends
Access Friend
Smile friends : These are of three types a) the guy the girl smiles at because she thinks he is cute or hot .b) the guy whom the girl smiles at even though she hates him but it is important to be in his good books(like professors,lab assistants etc).c)the guy who genuinely makes her smile.
Circle Friend : The guys whom she chooses to have around her either as body guards or as levels of penetration to get to her. This is to unsure that she is the queen of the clique.
Tea friends :the guy whom she has coffee with and has either meaning less or boring conversations with
Coffee friends : The guy who is allowed to ask her questions about her thoughts and mostly have meaningful conversation
Room Friends :The guy who is allowed to the girls room as she likes his company and appriciates his opinions
Shoulder Friends: The guys whom she genuinely likes (either as friends or has the hots for him) and she is willing to put a hand over his shoulder and vise verse
the higher levels of access are self explanatory :
Hand friends: (Holding hands)
Bed friends
sleep friends
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Thinking is a paradox
Its ironic that I feel obliged to pour out my thoughts and creativity at the time when sleep looms large over my head
When do people think , How is our thought process generated? Why do we have related thought processes and always get stuck on a topic which pains us the most.
For example if you are thinking about a class you need to take tomorrow
The class is of research methods
You think of the research project you had done in your engineering days
That engineering project I had done with an ex girl friend
and thats where you go into a vicious loop !
How is she, where is she , did I dump her or did I get dumped , was she good to me ,was she mean was she the one etc etc.
Its always the case that the thing that saddens you occupies your thinking capability the most the thought process is deemed to end up in a recurring loop inevitably .
Now when a person is falling asleep it is this recurring thought process which pushes him into the state of sleep .Its like the brains abort program for ending an infinite loop . The more you pain the mind with the intricacies the more confused you are bound to get.
Thinking as a paradox is an experiment which aims at minimizing the band width of your thought process the more extreme you get inyour thought process the longer it may take to arrive at a result so what needs to be done to get an optimum result from any perticular chain of ideas is to counter balance it so that you are able to tread the middle path for most amount of time hence arriving at a solution.
For example if you are wondering how can you get a job in this recession period
the thought might start with why the recession started
If you can control the stream at this point it self to redirect to your own situation rather than the vicious circle of the reason the recession started you are more likely to arrive at a result sooner rather than later . This control of flow needs to be maintianed and should be kept under constant vigil and developed if you are ever to achieve a decisive decision making capability.
Irony rules that you get into a confused thought process if you read this hence try to understand it as well as possible by treading the middle path !
When do people think , How is our thought process generated? Why do we have related thought processes and always get stuck on a topic which pains us the most.
For example if you are thinking about a class you need to take tomorrow
The class is of research methods
You think of the research project you had done in your engineering days
That engineering project I had done with an ex girl friend
and thats where you go into a vicious loop !
How is she, where is she , did I dump her or did I get dumped , was she good to me ,was she mean was she the one etc etc.
Its always the case that the thing that saddens you occupies your thinking capability the most the thought process is deemed to end up in a recurring loop inevitably .
Now when a person is falling asleep it is this recurring thought process which pushes him into the state of sleep .Its like the brains abort program for ending an infinite loop . The more you pain the mind with the intricacies the more confused you are bound to get.
Thinking as a paradox is an experiment which aims at minimizing the band width of your thought process the more extreme you get inyour thought process the longer it may take to arrive at a result so what needs to be done to get an optimum result from any perticular chain of ideas is to counter balance it so that you are able to tread the middle path for most amount of time hence arriving at a solution.
For example if you are wondering how can you get a job in this recession period
the thought might start with why the recession started
If you can control the stream at this point it self to redirect to your own situation rather than the vicious circle of the reason the recession started you are more likely to arrive at a result sooner rather than later . This control of flow needs to be maintianed and should be kept under constant vigil and developed if you are ever to achieve a decisive decision making capability.
Irony rules that you get into a confused thought process if you read this hence try to understand it as well as possible by treading the middle path !
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Spirituality
Spirituality is life and literature is our species diary for this journey. Spirituality can be defined as the belief system which guides a human being the values he has and shares with society at large. Often Spirituality is intertwined with religion this is due to the fact that we tend to get highly influenced by our religions, code of being and hence that becomes the basis for our spirituality too. With the advent of the information age the religious barriers set up in the past have been eroded to a great extant and what remains of them is common to most religions. In the present day work places in India and across the world it is common to find people from various parts of the earth with their own set of spiritual inclinations and through mutual co existence we tend to generate a common spiritual ground which we share at the work place. We often make spot judgements on a person’s character based on the place he hails from; this is often corrected by connecting at a spiritual level with the person him which leads to knowing the person better and learning how to deal with. Hence the understanding the effect of spirituality in the market place and in the work place has grown into an area of paramount importance.
The spiritual lacuna of symbiotic existential occurrence of human beings draws inspiration from a plethora of societal stand points mainly influenced by religion, history, art and architecture and written works. Literature is the backbone for human evolution written works of the past not only stand as inspiration to modern generations they also serve as an ethical and philosophical code to our existence. This current generation of working professionals are acquainted to many religious and social influences and the works of literature from various strata and geographies from the totalitarian societal view burgeoned in works such as 1984 to monarchies which have been influential since times immemorial and the capitalistic view of the early twentieth century with works of Marx, Lenin etc. In a democracy like ours we are open to adopting any of these view points and basing our conduct and code on them.
The spiritual lacuna of symbiotic existential occurrence of human beings draws inspiration from a plethora of societal stand points mainly influenced by religion, history, art and architecture and written works. Literature is the backbone for human evolution written works of the past not only stand as inspiration to modern generations they also serve as an ethical and philosophical code to our existence. This current generation of working professionals are acquainted to many religious and social influences and the works of literature from various strata and geographies from the totalitarian societal view burgeoned in works such as 1984 to monarchies which have been influential since times immemorial and the capitalistic view of the early twentieth century with works of Marx, Lenin etc. In a democracy like ours we are open to adopting any of these view points and basing our conduct and code on them.
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